The Imagination of People in Desperate Times

What would it be like to live in a place where we were not bound by what we thought was impossible?

A place where we did not have to guard our thoughts, a place where we were guided by our ideas and directed by our suggestions? A place where the imagination isn’t bound by our fear of rejection or conflict?

We are so bound by the limitations of our own mind. Our biggest obstacle of our life’s work is that we fail to involve our imagination. Our thoughts, ideas and suggestions often become what we have heard, seen or been told. We are so willing to limit ourselves to a position or ideology that we loose sight of the humanity of our opposition. We only see an enemy instead of a potential friend or ally. We often find area for disagreement, that we allow little room for consideration and no space for common ground.

Many of us put ourselves in a box, but we believe we think outside the box. How is that possible, when you can’t see how one man can have the audacity of hope? (No pun intended) The testicular fortitude to believe he can change the world, not by the might of his army, but the will of his people.

To go on a slightly political and patriotic tangent for a brief moment, I have this to say to anyone willing to receive it. It’s going to get better. We defeat ourselves when we give up hope. It’s not just you; it’s not just where you live, its many people.

Some choose to blame someone, but it’s not the fault of any one person, company or political party, but the greed and lack of vision of some people, companies and political entities. I’ve found it more productive to end my distain for certain individuals and leave them to their own vices. I can only move forward and stop allowing them to hold me back with their thoughts of terror, inconsiderate ideas and suspect suggestions. We got to save the arguments for another day and time, because we all have to fix what’s messed up.

If you have to fight why not fight against the feeling of hopelessness and those who are beaten down with cynicism and pessimism due to the current situations in their lives. I can’t make you draw upon your own imagination, but I just ask you not to give up.

Perhaps I’m just a student of hope and optimism, but I believe “the hope of a secure and livable world lies with disciplined non-conformists who are dedicated to justice, peace and brotherhood.” – Martin Luther King, Jr., Strength to Love (1963)

How powerful are the words you think, say and believe? Do you believe what you say or do you just say what you believe? I know everything seems bleak in every way, but keep moving, don’t give up. Don’t be bound by the limitations of our own mind and lack of imagination. Don’t get caught up in the places of complacency and hopelessness. Keep moving.

References & Inspirations
Jewish Journal – 01/20/08 – “Keep Moving from This Mountain (1965)MP3 pt.1 & MP3 pt.2
Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. – 1963 “Strength to Love

Give Back

In 2010, Stephen launched the Give Back Foundation, a 501(c)3 public charity created to help people give back.

The Give Back Foundation was established to allow any person to join GiveBack and set up their personal foundation account. The funds that accumulate in that account are part of the Give Back Foundation. Each member has the ability to direct the funds from their account to any charity in good standing with the United States Internal Revenue Service.

Together, all of the members’ accounts are gathered under one Give Back Foundation account awaiting the direction of each member. The members can give their money away whenever they choose, either as a single donation or as part of a group of people coming together to support a cause. 100% of the money that is directed to a charity is sent to the charity. The Give Back Foundation doesn’t charge you or the charity anything for the transaction.

Any money that a member adds directly into their GiveBack account is immediately tax deductible to the full extent allowed. Any additional money that may be added, either by our corporate sponsors or other individuals, is not deductible by the member. At year end the Give Back Foundation will issue every member a consolidated giving statement that may be used as an IRS tax receipt.

GiveBack allows you to put all your charitable giving in one place. And you can give any amount to any charity at any time. You can even earn money as you shop thanks to our retail partners.

So whether you’re looking to set up a Foundation that will last a lifetime, helping your chosen charity in the short term, or just accumulating money from your day-to-day shopping, your foundation offers the flexibility to GiveBack as and when you wish.

No matter the charity or the cause – as long as they’re registered with the IRS – your foundation can give to any charity you want. From education, healthcare, animal, environment, disaster relief or social issues – and everything in between – you’ll find all kinds of worthy organizations that need your help.

GiveBack allows you to give money to the causes you care about – and we make it easy to donate. Give any amount to any charity at any time.

And you can start your free personal foundation today in THREE easy steps:

1. Create your foundation
a. Sign-up and get searching for charities or causes you’d like to support.

2. Fill your foundation
a. Add money to your foundation in three simple ways:
i. Make a donation directly from your credit card.
ii. Shop with our 400+ online mall partners and earn up to 15% of each purchase.
iii. Engage with our sponsors and earn more for your foundation.

3. Increase your Impact.
a. There’s power in numbers. Spread the word by promoting charities and sharing stories.
i. If you want, you can highlight your favorite charities on Facebook.
ii. Small donations add up: now you and your friends can donate together.

Soon you’ll be able to create campaigns on behalf of your favorite charity, so you can manage local fundraisers through GiveBack.

There are a few issues that are near and dear to me, but I can only suggest the one that I feel is connected with them all is my campaign for consideration of others. Beyond all that I have written and advocated over the years what is usually at the root of it is the thought, idea and suggestion of consideration for others. Regardless of our differences, if we have consideration for one another we can accomplish so many things.

I will be creating my foundation around this idea and will work on developing a website and all. I’m not financially wealthy at all, but I do have enough consideration to give to you. Expect to hear more from me regarding this and I sincerely appreciate GiveBack for this concept.

Take a moment to visit www.GiveBack.org and see what you can do.

A Love Letter to Share

 

I just want to share this letter about love with you as we celebrate Valentine’s Day.

 

The contractual approach to love says that I will love you if, but a covenantal approach to love says that I will love you even if.

 

How many of us are honest enough in our relationships to love the other person even if?

 

Please don’t answer that publicly, but privately to yourself.

 

This is something we should contemplate everyday, but especially this day that society has commercialized as a day of and for love. Tomorrow many will go about living the lie they have conformed and/or confines themselves to. Whether it is in a relationship that may not live up to what it was meant to be, but that doesn’t mean love can not come.

 

Some will try to argue the point of love with you, but consider the motivation of their decent and see if you can find the love.

 

Love someone today, not because it’s Valentine’s Day, because it is the only day you have. So many people today will go about with a smile on their face, but a heart that is broken in mourning a love that’s lost or no more. Discouraged or alone due to the lack of attention, misunderstanding, lack of concern, separation, divorce or death. So I’ll say it again, love someone today. Love them for no reason at all or that it is today. Tell them how much you sincerely appreciate them for who they are and will be. We must stop confining ourselves and others to the mistakes, stubbornness and pride we held in the past.

 

If I can offer anything to you today it would be love, forgiveness and acceptance. Leave the excuses for why you believe you can not and/or will not forgive behind and heal yourself, that relationship, that remnant of love instead of hate, fear, sorrow or regret.

 

Love, acceptance and forgiveness may not be easy for some, but when you consider others it is possible and available. Be sincere enough to seek it.

 

Finally, be willing to forgive, love and accept yourself with a covenantal approach. I recognize that I haven’t always thought, said or did what was right in respect of these things, but I’m honest enough to ask for forgiveness, humble enough to be appreciative of your acceptance and open towards love. You must be able to forgive and love yourself first to show the same consideration towards others.

 

Whether your love becomes contractual, sincerely work to make it covenantal. Always be considerate enough to love even if. Never be too afraid to demonstrate your love.

 

Happy Valentine’s Day

Rev.James Joseph Reeb: “More Than a Witness to Truth”

Whites in Black History Series:
Rev. James Joseph Reeb

 

Reverend James Reeb received his Masters of Divinity at the Princeton Theological Seminary in 1953. He was one of others in that class who put truth to practice by adhering to the call of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

 

Like many ministers fresh out of Seminary he sought the opportunity to serve and make a difference. Although I can only assume based off my own experiences with ministers, I’m sure the same would be true for Rev. Reeb as well.

 

Some of the issues experienced in many churches today can be attributed to ministers who want to serve, but true calling was not to be a minister. It is often a thankless, unappreciative and difficult position to purposely want to be in. When you are called to be a witness to truth there isn’t any amount of reluctance or even disobedience that will keep you away from it.

 

Rev. Reeb was a compassionate man who served as a Presbyterian Chaplain in a hospital in Philadelphia before becoming an Assistant Pastor for a Unitarian Universalist Church in Washington D.C.

 

He worked helping people with low income in Boston before he found his way to Selma, Alabama during the late winter of 1965 to help in a voting rights campaign. He hadn’t been in the state for a day before people who believed they were patriots acting out of their own ignorance, fear and what they’ve been taught to believe as true, attacked Rev. Reeb while walked from a diner.

 

Rev. Reeb died March 11, 1965 resulting from that attack at the same age I am today writing this, 38. His attackers were all arrested and brought to trail where an all White jury set them free. Some believed that was justice, but maybe it’s just us who justice doesn’t see because this scenario repeated itself thousands of times in courtrooms throughout the U.S. The value of a person’s life often hinges on the life the person lead in the consciousness of those who is responsible for taking the life and those who are responsible for assuring redemption for the taking of life.

 

Rev. Reeb’s murder was untimely and unwarranted. Dr. King delivered his eulogy where he said that James Joseph Reeb was a witness to truth. Although I agree I would also say that he was more than a witness to truth, he was a follower, servant and advocate for truth. His only crime was that he dared to subscribe to what is true and live by it.

 

And if he should die, take his body, and cut it into little stars. He will make the face of Heaven so fine that all the world will be in love with night.” – Shakespeare

 

Rev. James Reeb was more than a witness to truth, but a follower and servant of truth because he knew he could not just be concerned about justice for Blacks in the South. He lived in Roxbury, MA, at the time a Black community.

 

He was not concerned about the narrow-minded opinions of Whites and Blacks who would be suspicious of him and his family because of where he had chosen to live and what motivated him throughout his life. Truth was his livelihood and concern for others was the wages he freely paid.

 

There is so much that I can say and for us to learn about James Reeb, but as I conclude I must end this opportunity with these words of Dr. King spoke at the funeral of Rev. James Reeb.

 

“The world is aroused over the murder of James Reeb for he symbolizes the forces of good will in our nation. He demonstrated the conscience of the nation. He was an attorney for the defense of the innocent in the court of world opinion. He was a witness to the truth that men of different races and classes might live, eat and work together as brothers.

 

Again, we must ask the question: Why must good men die for doing good? O Jerusalem, why did you murder the prophets and persecute those who come to preach your salvation? So the Reverend James Reeb has something to say to all of us in his death.”

– Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

 

My final words are in regards to James Reeb, Dr. King and all of the people who served and was a witness to truth, both notable and those who has not been recognized. Thank you. I mean that sincerely. Thank you. I understand the importance of what you and so many others did. Regardless of race, regardless of religious preferences, regardless of gender and regardless of sexual preferences COUNTLESS… people were beaten, suffered economically and socially, struggled and even killed on my behalf so that I could one day be just one voice willing to speak/write with the completeness in recognition of history’s heroes.

 

Our fight is not over, but I know how important it is that I do all that I can do and encourage others to keep fighting for truth so that we can be a witness like Rev. James Joseph Reeb.

 

Thank You.

 

 

 

Motivation & Inspiration:

For those who may ask or wonder the reason for such a post I offer my reasons here. Two years ago on this blog I published a post titled “Whites in Black History”. I did it to emphasize the positive role White people people played in Black History. Often we will begin hearing the calls for the end of the celebration or governors, politicians and organizations interestingly choosing to celebrate Confederate History as if that is the whole of the history of White Americans. The list goes on for days with the reasons given by those who have not taken the time to consider their role in Black History. It is not just a history of a people, but all of us. This is the point.

 

So often in schools only one perspective of history is taught with a brief mentioning of a few others. This plays into the ignorance of a culture. We are so willing to take a line and run with it without considering the sentence or the paragraph. We can not continue to have such a narrow-minded view and perception of history if we are to consider ourselves moving forward.

 

My motives behind this is not to exclude the contributions of Blacks, Jews, Hispanics and many others who made significant contributions to the history of Black people in America. It is to highlight how rich the history truly is and sharing it with others. I have personally written and mentioned many people beyond the notable names of Dr. King or Malcolm X. Not to diminish their works and ultimate sacrifices, but as I’m sure they would and did say, there’s more to a people than what you see. All I’m doing is trying to help you see it for yourself.

 

Now there will be those who simply choose to ignore all of this and remain in the state of consciousness they are familiar with. Some will be more willing to settle for the “I’m OK, if You’re OK” position and see this effort and others made as just a nice tribute to history. I accept this reality and understand that I can not change the mind of everyone. Some people are just not unwilling, but that’s alright. It should not be a factor in what others may receive from this effort. So I submit this edition of my collection titled “Whites in Black History” regarding Rev. James J. Reeb.

 

Thank you for your time and reading :)

Barbara Bush for Marriage Equality

OK… Sigh… I must give both Barbara & Laura Bush credit for having the courage to speak out against an issue that has plagued their father (George W. Bush), Uncle (Former FL Gov. Jeb Bush) and Grandfather (George H.W. Bush)’s party.

I give them credit not just because they are speaking about an issue of equality, but because they are speaking out on an issue of equality that involves marriage. An issue that their party or at least their family’s party affiliation has used in a political context.

They do this with the knowledge that many of their family’s party members and various media outreach outlets will actively work to discredit them in one way or the other. This proves a point I’ve made a long time ago on a different subject. One of the most powerful voice for change is of the reformed and oppressed.

Some will be quick to offer the excuse as a subtle diversion of the issue that other political parties have used wedge issues. I agree, many have, but we’re not talking about other parties in the post, but speaking about the contribution towards equality regarding marriage despite of the oppositions to them or the issue. The point is equality and all the consequences that comes with that.

So I will say, good work Barbara :)

Remembering Your Commitment

In many relationships comes a time where you find yourself questioning your commitment to it. It may be a friendship, dating, marriage, professional/business and/or even spiritual. You just get tired of certain things that the other person may do or not do, say or not say, use to do or have stopped doing. The thought of divorce, separation or distancing yourself is now an idea or even being suggested.

Some may not publicly admit it, but privately you know it’s true. There is no perfect relationship. Our relationship is a commitment to an imperfect person for our ideal situations. What you tend to not consider is that we are the imperfect one in the relationship. Forever afraid of being the one in the wrong, determine to win any argument at any cost and seek sympathy for our victimization by the other person.

Marriage is often the prime example of a commitment. We go into it wide eyed, but for some reason can’t see the issues that the other has stored away and others see because we’re in love. What I’ve found entertaining is watching how long that vision lasts. I’m not hoping or believing in divorce or difficulties for the couple, but I know it’s going to occur. The measure of your commitment is how you respond when times get hard. Those reading this that has been in a relationship for an extended period of time may be able to testify to the validity of that statement.

If I am to be honest in what I write I am willing to admit that my relationships have not always been as I originally thought or think it should be. I’m fortunate to say that none were abusive or dysfunctional, but selfishness can be found within all parties. It is when one person is aware, honest and willing enough to remember their commitment to find peace.

Don’t make a habit of dwelling on the bad times more than the good times. Remind yourself why the person loves, likes or works with you and the benefit of you loving, liking or working with them.  We must stop trying to rewrite our history and focus on making history. Be the first people you know to reconcile a marriage gone sour and come back stronger than before. Be the one to forgive your parent(s) for the things they didn’t know how to do or for repeating the mistakes that was done to them over with you. Think of the person you call friend enough to see how he/she is doing after a disagreement. Go visit that person you haven’t talked to for awhile that is not doing to well today. It’s not about what was done, but what you do now.

So as I attempt to conclude this thought for this moment I want to just ask you to consider others and remember your commitment to each other. Take time to communicate with the one you are committed to. Whether that commitment is professional, personal, emotional or spiritual, give it time. Give it time doesn’t mean you wait to see what happens, it means you give your time, energy and commitment to it.

Finally, be willing to admit that you’re wrong. Yeah I thought she was pretty, I liked the way he looked at me or I felt abandoned or betrayed so I did things I shouldn’t have. Be the one to admit it and do something positive about it. In every situation everyone is not going to understand or respond in the best manner. Some relationships may end or can only be resolved with divorce, separation or distance. Just don’t allow that to govern your next relationship. Remember your commitment.

Just the Three of Us

Well I just wanted to take a moment to celebrate one of my greatest motivations in life, my son. Today he will be five years old and like I’ve done on this day since he was born I attempt to do again today.

 

Since I’ve began blogging on a regular basis I’ve periodically made some sort of reference to my son. This will be our last birthday where it is just me and him, because very soon I will have to say it’s just the four of us, because he will have a brother. Just another reason to love.

 

So in this brief message to my son who I’m writing this for, I just want to say that Daddy loves you and thanks you for all that you continue to do. You are the newer and better version of me.

You make life fun. Mom & I love you very much. Happy Birthday son.

 

Justice is Color Blind

Didn’t we just discuss this for two weeks?

http://timvalentine.wordpress.com/2009/10/09/racistconversation5/
http://timvalentine.wordpress.com/2009/10/12/racistconversation6/

Oh I forgot, “I’m not a racist because I have Black friends” defense.

Can someone say it with me? UNCONSCIOUS RACISM

You should always be aware of the person who says, “I’m not a racist”. If you’re not a racist you don’t have to say it. Your actions will speak for you.

Summary

OK, so this is the story. A few days ago a Judge in New Orleans denied an interracial couple a marriage license on the grounds of his belief the marriage would not work, he does not believe in “the mixing of the races” and his lack of self-acknowledgement that he would be one of the people who would discriminate against any children they may have.

Details

In New Orleans, Louisiana a justice of the peace said he refused to issue a marriage license to an interracial couple out of concern for any children the couple might have.

My Comment: It’s always about sex isn’t it.

Keith Bardwell, justice of the peace in Tangipahoa Parish, says it is his experience that most interracial marriages do not last long.

“I’m not a racist. I just don’t believe in mixing the races that way,” Bardwell told the Associated Press on Thursday.

My Comment: Of course not, you just have issues with race.

“I have piles and piles of black friends. They come to my home, I marry them, they use my bathroom. I treat them just like everyone else.”

My Comment: WHAT! You’re kidding me, right?

Bardwell said he asks everyone who calls about marriage if they are a mixed race couple. If they are, he does not marry them, he said.

My Comment: Oh, well then. That’s not racist. Just because you refuse to do your job, because of race doesn’t mean you’re racist. Come on now.
Bardwell said he has discussed the topic with blacks and whites, along with witnessing some interracial marriages. He came to the conclusion that most of black society does not readily accept offspring of such relationships, and neither does white society, he said.

My Comment: Oh, so you talked about with Black people. So that doesn’t make you racist. Seriously, don’t validate your argument on the myth that Black people can’t be racist, because they can. Racism isn’t racist, because anyone can be one.

“There is a problem with both groups accepting a child from such a marriage,” Bardwell said. “I think those children suffer and I won’t help put them through it.”

My Comment: This is a lie. It’s only a problem among racist.

If he did an interracial marriage for one couple, he must do the same for all, he said.

“I try to treat everyone equally.”

My Comment: OK, I’m trying not to laugh at this one. How in the Hell do you say that with a straight face? As my sister would say, For Real Dude? You’ve got to be kidding me. I’m being Punk’d right now, right? OK. You try to treat everyone equally, so you demonstrate your non-racist attitude by marrying people who are of the same race, but not marrying people who are not. I bet you do this on a Bible too. Besides disobeying the law, you’re going against the word of God. Unless your Bible reads “God is a respecter of persons”.

You’ve got to read the rest of this story for yourself. No one is forcing you to get married to someone because of social perceptions, but you shouldn’t be denied the right to get married to someone because of social perceptions.
http://www.blackamericaweb.com/?q=articles/news/the_state_of_black_america_news/13496
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/10/15/interracial-couple-denied_n_322784.html
*An eyebrow should be raised, but I’ll let you think about this before I get into it any further. But it’s coming. So don’t asking me, because I’m not telling.  Just keep reading. :)

The sad thing is that I have run across people just like this on this very blog. No matter how much you try to explain it to them, they still don’t get it.

Momma, Daddy is the Papa

Meredith Vieira talks to actress Mackenzie Phillips about her long-standing incestuous relationship with her father, her struggle with drug addiction and other details revealed in her new memoir, “High on Arrival.”

After watching this interview with Meredith I want ask a question which you will see below, but this interview may put the question in better context.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/21134540/vp/32999699#32999699

I’ve included a clip from her interview on Oprah, but urge you to watch the interview with Meredith Vieira.

Incest; could this be an acceptable reason for getting an abortion?

Now don’t get upset with me for asking the question, I’m just pointing out one of the 800 lbs Gorilla’s in the room of this story. I’m not suggesting or advocating my morals onto anyone by asking, but I am interesting in knowing what you think now that you’ve listened to the interview.

Unfortunately I’ve had the opportunity to have conversations with victims of rape and incest. The over arching affects that sexual abuse has on the mind of the one being abuse can make a long lasting impression in so many areas of a persons life. I raise the question about abortion to make a point, but as I’ve said in previous conversations on this blog is that you have to consider others, because you never know what or why someone decides to do what they do. Sometimes its not so clear cut as right or wrong as we can conclude in this case. This is why I will continue to advocate the simple strategy of Considering Others. Even if I am criticized in the process and/or misunderstood. The meaning is within the message.

Share your thoughts, ideas and suggestions about this.

The Devil’s Advocate

Too often we talk about how big our problems are and not how big God is to our problems. We’re quick to affirm the voice of defeat, instead of the voice of victory. If the power of life and death is in the tongue, then what is it that you’re saying?

We speak our own defeat into existence. Whether we realize it or not, when you do this you act as a proxy for evil and the devil’s advocate. Listen to what you’re saying. Listen to yourself. I say this not in judgment of anyone, but as a word of encouragement. I too get have said things that I shouldn’t have said, but this is why I have continually emphasis the message of considering others, tolerance, acceptance and respect for one another. It is difficult to have respect for those who shows themselves unrespectable, but you have to consider them too.

Many have heard the term, “the devil is in the details”, when asked to explain something that appears to be complicated or misunderstood. If the devil is in the details, then isn’t that an indicator that the plan is tainted?

Is the devil in your details? Is what you’re saying self-defeating? How often have you demonstrated your consideration for others with disrespectful words? Are you walking by faith or just by sight? If you really claim to be a Christian, you got to be honest enough to ask yourself these questions.

Are you the Devil’s advocate?

I believe if you’re really honest with yourself some will realize that you are or were. Consider Others.

My Church Is…

mychurchisNow after you view this video I want to ask a simple question. Don’t peak. I could not get the video to embed, so please click the image or here to watch the 2 minute video.

In efforts to be inclusive I am referring to The Church as the place in your life that is your sanctuary. You may look at this in the tradition context of a religious organization or destination or you may look at this as a more personal or intimate destination in your life.

Regardless whether you believe in God or not, regardless if you’re a Christian, Jew, Muslim, Hindu or whatever; the intent of the message is difficult to disparage. Many of the people within The Church of today may say these things, but don’t practice any of the things mentioned in this video. Now is not the time to discuss all of them, but I would like to ask a simple question of you.

My church is _________.

  • an inviting place
  • a safe place
  • a place of forgiveness
  • a merciful place
  • accepting of who I am
  • relatable to me
  • one of the most creative and inspiring place I go
  • a place where I can use my talents and help others
  • a place of healing
  • that extra support that is sometimes hard to ask for
  • loving
  • accepting
  • hope

Can you truthfully say any of these things with sustainable evidence to verify your claims about Your Church?

I’m sure some will offer the typical ‘church response’ and say that their church is all of these things and a bag of chips, but the test of it’s truth should be found within you when I visit ‘your church’, because the church is you.

Human Nature

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In the wake of millions of people throughout the world mourning and in shock over the sudden death of Michael Jackson I wanted to take a moment to think about the reoccurring message that flowed throughout most of his music like a melodic baseline. That was a message of love, tolerance and acceptance of people as they are.

What I’ve found to be very interesting is the commentary I’ve been hearing and how it’s been given since the announcement of his death.

Many of us can remember the song “Black or White”, because it was often referenced in jokes aimed at the ethnicity of Michael Jackson. One of the many things that he uniquely understood and tried to convey was how to be a blank slate.

He was often misunderstood and marked as an easy target by many. The thoughts, ideas and suggestions people made about everything from his appearance to his sexuality to how he conducted business was a point of argument and concern for many. Often in death the detractors are reluctant to speak much ill of the deceased, because it’s socially seen to be in poor taste. Obviously it didn’t stop them from saying it while he was living, so why should it stop them in his death?

Who among us do not have a side to us we wouldn’t want publicized? The things we’ve said or may have done for any reason dragged into the court of public opinion for all to judge would be an absolute nightmare for many of us. I’m sure if I had or ever obtain the level of fame halfway comparable to Michael Jackson some would find some things I do strange and out of the ordinary when over analyzed and scrutinized by the public. Some have criticized my words on this very forum, so I couldn’t imagine what that would be like millions of times over. So as we all think about the life and death of Michael Jackson I suggest that we look at the person beyond the glare of entertainment and consider his greater impact and contributions to the world.

One of the things that Michael openly shared was a message of love. It’s human nature to want to lift someone up before we work to bring him down. How often are we willing to put ourselves in their shoes in efforts to understand who they are as a person and not who we have made them out to be?

Forgive him for what you don’t understand, because you would want to be forgiven for what we may not understand about you. Allow him to be in peace. Consider the over arching message he strived to offer through music and build upon it.

References & Inspirations
Michael Jackson – 1983 “Human Nature

Michael Joseph Jackson

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I was actually traveling when I heard the news on XM Radio that Michael Jackson died. I didn’t want to believe it. Not Michael Jackson, no it couldn’t be Mike. Mike’s gone, but I never got to meet him. He can’t go yet.

I listened to CNN on XM 132 for hours. I couldn’t believe it. When it began to set it, I started to think about my room as a pre-teen and teenager. The first time I saw Thriller was over a church member’s house. We all sat down in front of the TV to watch it. It was an event.

As I began to receive text, email, tweets and IM from all over I started to think about my favorite songs. ‘Say, Say, Say’ , Billie Jean, The Lady in My Life, Smooth Criminal, I Can’t Help It, just to mention a few. I didn’t care about what people said about him, I was cool with him. Now he’s gone. MAN!

I just don’t really have enough words for this one, so I’ll just leave you with one of my favorite songs and videos of all time. Rest In Peace Mike. Thanks for the music, creativity and inspiration.

Fell free to share your stories about Michael Jackson too.

You Were Taking a Hike?

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Well some may believe that I will take this opportunity to bash the Republican Party for being hypocrites and offer up the same dose of medicine they was so willing to dish out to Democrats during the whole Clinton-Lewinski, John Edwards, Elliott Spitzer Scandals. As tempting and justifiable it would be to do so, I’m going to do my best to resist. Although I am loving this, two in the same week. All I need now is for Dick Cheney to fall down again and Rush Limbaugh to get laryngitis and I’m cool for the entire week.

Over the past few weeks now I’ve laid off of the criticism of politicians to focus on what’s more important in our discussions. I intentionally did not say anything about Sen. John Ensign (R-NV), because I didn’t want to get into the useless argument and have someone accuse me of attacking him because he’s a Republican. I honestly feel sorry for the man. Politically I’m smiling, but I didn’t want to be one of the people beating up on him.

So I turn my attention to the Governor of South Carolina, Chairman of the Republican Governor’s Association and potential 2012 Presidential hopeful, Mark Sanford.

If Gov. Mark Sanford (R-SC) would have called me this is what I would say.

<Big Sigh> Dude… What the… Man! Why didn’t you just call or email me? Yeah I’m a Democrat, but I would have been honest with you. I’m not that partisan. It’s alright; I’m not going to beat up on you too much, because you’re doing a good job of it yourself.

So where do we begin?

Over the Father’s Day weekend much was made of your mysterious disappearance. OK, this raises a Red Flag.

At first I was thinking, ‘OK, What’s the big deal’. He’s a grown man. I may not agree with all of the positions you take, you like anyone else deserve some time to yourself to do what he wants to do. So I took the position of “Let the man chill out and relax for a few days.” I was about to come to your defense and tell me fellow Democrats to let the man have some time to himself, but something just told me to hold off.

  1. You tell your staff that you’re going hiking on the Appalachian Trail. Cool, but some advisor should have said, “Um Governor you know it’s National Hike Naked this weekend, you may want to rethink the public perception that gives. You know the Democrats will have a field day with that scenario.” Hmmm… Red Flag.
  2. Then reporters begin to start talking amongst each other and speculation begins to build. Someone saw you at the airport in Atlanta boarding a flight going to Argentina. Red Flag.
  3. At the same time the news began to break about “the missing governor”. So people ask your wife, SC First Lady Jenny Sanford questions about your whereabouts. When she told the AP that she didn’t know where her husband had gone on Father’s Day weekend. That’s when you have to begin to wonder if something bad had happen. That’s a big flaming Red Flag.
  4. Then you get word about the panic that’s beginning to build on your way back to the states. That’s the time you get your game plan together.
  5. You arrive back in Atlanta from Argentina and you’re greeted by a reporter from TheState.com this is when you should have realized that the fan is on and the ____ is about the hit the fan if you don’t have your ____ together.

Listen man, I’m not a politician and yes I am usually suspicious of most of what the GOP says and does. But I have given some members of your party credit. There’s a governor next to you that’s running for Senate that I actually like. So I’m not 100% against everything and anything you all do, like many act towards my party. But Dude come on. I shouldn’t have to tell you this. DON’T TRUST NO REPORTER. ALWAYS BE ON GUARD. Some you can trust, but reporters are as partisan as politicians. Not in the political sense, but in sensational sense. It doesn’t matter political party, you’re a highly visible politician with the anticipation of loftier ambitions, and we’re watching you. You see the “Chrissy Snow” like antics Sarah Palin makes and the “Leave it to Beaver” presence of Bobby Jindal. You actually had a good chance, but…

Well this was a ‘dear, dear friend’.” I’m sure. I have dear friends, but none are sexual. You can love someone, but that doesn’t mean that you’re in love with them. So Mark, what’s the deal?

The relationship didn’t become romantic until a year ago.” Hmmm… You know this is going to get ugly.

I shouldn’t have to tell you this, but you know you just broken one of the biggest Man laws. I’m sorry for the language on this, but “Cover Your Ass.” How hard is that?

It’s alright man, it’s going to be alright. Apologize, cry, repeat. I’m not going to beat you up. But you know this just makes my and many other Democrats argument even easier for when or if you decide to run in 2012. Oh! I guess you may have to rethink that now. Who’s left? Sarah Palin… Come on now. Charlie Crist is running for the Senate, Arnold can’t run. The only other real candidate is Gov. Tim Pawlenty (R-MN).

Well I won’t ride you too hard. I’m sure you’ve already been rode… oh never-mind. :) So I wonder who’s going to take your place now, since you’re stepping down from the Republican Governors Association. Perhaps Mr. Succession himself, Gov. Rick Perry (R-TX) will do the honors.

Should I even begin with Sen. David Vitter, Sen. John Ensign, Sen. Larry Craig, FL State Rep. Bob Allen or Glenn Murphy? MAN! It’s hard out here for a Republican. What do you need Democrats to beat up on you for when you’re doing a good job at it on your own.

Yes, to all the partisans out there, I know that Democrats cheat too, as I pointed out at the beginning of this. But I bet John Edwards is at home with a big smile on his face right now.

Good Luck Mark. Now I don’t want to hear nothing else about ‘family values’, because I’m going to hit you in the head with the list of politican’s with family values. :)

References & Inspirations
Huffington Post – 06/23/09 “Sanford in Argentina, Not On Appalachian Trail, He Says On Return
LA Times – 06/20/09 “Sen. John Ensign, mistress’ husband point fingers at each other

The Imagination of People in Desperate Times

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Recently, I was asked by someone I get to see and speak to in-person periodically who reads this blog. We talked about various things included the economy, wars and all of the other crazy things going on in the world. They noticed that I’ve stopped writing so directly about various political figures the way I use to and wanted to know why? This leads me to write about something that was said, the imagination of people in desperate times. Yes that’s a long title, but that’s what I’m talking about. So thanks to that person who wisely do not want to be named, but you can comment. I won’t rat you out. :)

What would it be like to live in a place where we were not bound by what we thought was impossible?

A place where we did not have to guard our thoughts, a place where we were guided by our ideas and directed by our suggestions? A place where the imagination isn’t bound by our fear of rejection or conflict?

We are so bound by the limitations of our own mind. Our biggest obstacle of our life’s work is that we fail to involve our imagination. Our thoughts, ideas and suggestions often become what we have heard, seen or been told. We are so willing to limit ourselves to a position or ideology that we loose sight of the humanity of our opposition. We only see an enemy instead of a potential friend or ally. We often find area for disagreement, that we allow little room for consideration and no space for common ground.

Many of us put ourselves in a box, but we believe we think outside the box. How is that possible, when you can’t see how one man can have the audacity of hope? (No pun intended) The testicular fortitude to believe he can change the world, not by the might of his army, but the will of his people.

To go on a slightly political and patriotic tangent for a brief moment, I have this to say to anyone willing to receive it. It’s going to get better. We defeat ourselves when we give up hope. It’s not just you; it’s not just where you live, its many people.

Some choose to blame someone, but it’s not the fault of any one person, company or political party, but the greed and lack of vision of some people, companies and political entities. I’ve found it more productive to end my distain for certain individuals and leave them to their own vices. I can only move forward and stop allowing them to hold me back with their thoughts of terror, inconsiderate ideas and suspect suggestions. We got to save the arguments for another day and time, because we all have to fix what’s messed up.

If you have to fight why not fight against the feeling of hopelessness and those who are beaten down with cynicism and pessimism due to the current situations in their lives. I can’t make you draw upon your own imagination, but I just ask you not to give up.

Perhaps I’m just a student of hope and optimism, but I believe “the hope of a secure and livable world lies with disciplined non-conformists who are dedicated to justice, peace and brotherhood.” – Martin Luther King, Jr., Strength to Love (1963)

How powerful are the words you think, say and believe? Do you believe what you say or do you just say what you believe? I know everything seems bleak in every way, but keep moving, don’t give up. Don’t be bound by the limitations of our own mind and lack of imagination. Don’t get caught up in the places of complacency and hopelessness. Keep moving.

References & Inspirations
Jewish Journal – 01/20/08 – “Keep Moving from This Mountain (1965)MP3 pt.1 & MP3 pt.2
Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. – 1963 “Strength to Love