The Five Bricks of Love

 

 

Spend your time building people up rather than tearing them down. Before you know it you would have facilitated a marvelous relationship that is grounded and stands upon a firm foundation.

 

BRICK ONE

You can love someone that you’ve never met by first opening your heart and mind to the possibilities. Some read that and immediately limit love to just Eros type of love. This the love most associated with romance. They’ve already laid their first brick without using the mortar of consideration, because their foundation is grounded in such an opinion of love that it isn’t open to the boundless reach of love. Therefore loving someone they’ve never met seems impossible or weird.

 

BRICK TWO

You can love someone that you’ve never met by first opening your heart and mind to the possibilities. Some read that and their mind thinks about what is called Storage love.

 

Storge love represents a safe haven for couples as it is a place of acceptance, mutual respect and shelter. Many couple dwell in storge love for years and misunderstand it as mundane or boring. But in effect it is a very safe place but can simply lack that spark we seek. PAY ATTENTION. It can also serve as the moat around your marriage protecting it from outside forces and allow the other types of loves to dwell and flourish. Storge love can co-exist with other types of love and can be likened to a foundation made up of trust and safety.

 

BRICK THREE

You can love someone that you’ve never met by first opening your heart and mind to the possibilities. Some read that and their mind thinks about what is called Phileo.

 

This love cherishes and has tender affection for the beloved but it expects a response. It is a love of relationship, comradeship, sharing, communication and friendship. While eros lends you to romance, phileo makes a close companionship that is all trusting. They share each other’s thoughts, feelings, attitudes, plans and dreams. They confide in each other the most intimate secrets, fears and needs that they would not share with another. If I am to be honest with myself, this is the brick I’ve tried to offer more often than any other. But I guess that’s not necessarily up to me to say.

 

BRICK FOUR

You can love someone that you’ve never met by first opening your heart and mind to the possibilities. Some read that and you may assume I’m speaking about the love that many of us have heard of called Agape.

 

Agape love is different from eros in that it is not sexual, nor romantic in nature. Its nature is that of self sacrifice but is not unconditional. This is one that I’ve been more active in incorporating in my daily life. I admit it is difficult and sometimes find myself murmuring to myself about just running away, but agape is a journey of love in my opinion.

 

You can love your spouse completely and still have boundaries and maintain your self respect. Sometimes your loved ones will not or can not love you in the way you need to be loved. It’s not that you don’t love them or they don’t love you. It’s your agape love is at a different level than theirs. It may be more or it could be less.

 

Agape love is also different from the other kinds of love in that you can choose it. You can elect to love your spouse this way because it is what is best for your family and/or marriage. It is a giving of yourself for the betterment of your sanity, security and stability. Agape love can help you to protect yourself emotionally during difficult times as you love others, but expect nothing in return.

 

I adjure you to consider applying this measure of love. It isn’t an easy love, but it is an enduring one.

 

BRICK FIVE

You can love someone that you’ve never met by first opening your heart and mind to the possibilities. Some read that and you may assume I’m speaking about Epithumia. Many times it is associated with lust or sometimes to covet. While epithumia love can draw couples closer together it can also be divisive as it can lead to an uncontrollable desire to have or to own.

 

So spend your time building people up rather than tearing them down. Understand the power of love and how to love. You can love someone that you’ve never met and/or that you’ve known for years. Open your heart and mind to the possibilities that resides within love and build a firm foundation.

 

Here are five bricks for you to begin building with. Check your foundation and build a castle of love.