Did You Miss Me?

I’m watching a local news report of a missing person when these questions arise.

1. Why do we never or rarely see, hear or read any reports about missing men?

2. Why is it that the overwhelming reports we do hear of missing adults are White Women?

Now as a Black man I know that if I was to come up missing no one will miss me. Of course my immediate family would look for me, maybe some friends and perhaps some of you would email me after awhile, but regardless of what the authorities may say I’m just another lost…

If we go beyond race for a moment, this would basically be true of any man who goes missing. Regardless if it’s Bubba, Pappy or Junior society will not look for you for long. At least not in the same way they would if Cindy, Jennifer, Rachel goes missing.

Why are we just concerned about missing White Women?

Just below that we have missing children? Then missing elderly?

We see more work behind finding missing pets than we do their owners. And please don’t let the missing person be unattractive, you may not even get the time of day.

Now I don’t want to see anyone go missing, but my point is that it seems that American society is more concern about the missing and exploitation of everyone else, but men. Why can’t the men get any love, we’re people too?

I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Feel free to chime in with your thoughts about it. All I ask is that you state whether you’re a man or a woman. You can provide more detail if you like, but I’m interested in hearing your thoughts, ideas and suggestions about this inequality.

References & Influences:
Wikipedia “Missing White Women Syndrome
Washington Post – 06/10/05 “(White) Women We Love
CNN – 03/17/06 “Race Bias in Media Coverage of Missing Women?
inRich.com – 08/06/07 “Missing-girl case differed
BBC News – 01/26/06 “London Police Chief Accuses Media of Racism
FOX News – 12/19/07 “Aruba Investigation into Disappearance of Natalee Holloway

3 thoughts on “Did You Miss Me?

  1. Of course I missed you.
    You’re the one who started this friendship. 😛

    I think the general line of thinking is that WE are the ones who cause everyone else to go missing. Then when we go missing, we’re out carousing and womanizing.

    Be careful! If the PUMAS over at The Gorilla Women get wind of this it’ll be your turn to be the Misogynist De Jour.


  2. I only recall hearing about one or two missing men. One guy was a lawyer, maybe a prosecutor and his girlfriend reported him missing. I think the reason they don’t make a big deal about men going missing is that it is not unusual for men to walk away from their lives. When men go missing it is not necessarily “foul play.”

    But you are right, you don’t hear about missing “ugly” people.

  3. I had never really thought about this before, but it’s an interesting point to make. Maybe it’s the perverse romance of a “damsel in distress” (like in that cartoon) that gives more attention to women. Or that men are viewed as being tough and rugged and will find their way home eventually. Or maybe men are just harder to steal.

    All I know is that if I ever go missing, I want Anderson Cooper to be camped outside my house giving hourly updates on the search. 🙂

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