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***THE CONTINUATION OF LEARN TO LOVE***
When faced with the idea of interracial dating or marriage the first thing that runs through the person who is against it is sex. Sex isn’t everything. (Wait-a-minute, What did I just say? Hmm, well let’s roll with it.)
If we really want to get into the history of sex and race we can go there, but that leads into multiple tangent discussions of rape, slavery, the one-drop rule, completion complexes and many other ‘fun’ things. So I’ll save that for another day.
If you have been in a romantic interracial relationship you can probably relate to some if not all of the arguments that were levee against you and the relationship.
Sympathetic Argument – Some attempt to offer this argument by suggesting the social impact on the children. Now I remind you that there are no children around, just dating or marriage, but we’re already at children and the idea of sex.
I offer this position to counter this pathetic argument as an excuse for the behavior you’re exhibiting now. It is one that I’ve used in the past. ‘The child will experience rejection socially regardless of their genetic make-up. I experienced social rejection as a child up until today and my parents are of the same race, so that argument is baseless.’
The other argument has been that, I just don’t believe in it. This is equally ridiculous as the last one. I’ve countered that weak argument as simply saying ‘it’s not a religion. So what is there to believe in?’ Furthermore, if you say you ‘believe in love’, then what’s the problem?
Normally, the person is at a lost of words and excuses and goes with the preference argument. I just prefer this type of person. Now that’s an acceptable argument, but incomplete. It’s incomplete because often the person uses it as a shield to hide the fact that they their love is limited instead of limitless. Why do you put your love in a box? Furthermore, why base your preferences along racial lines?
We all have preferences. I tend to find women with short haircuts with a slight attitude, reasonable measure of culture and intelligence attractive. If you have an accent on top of that you can expect that I’m paying you close attention, but that’s just my preference. Race actually doesn’t come into play, because this can be found in any race, even my own.
Although I can respect the notion of preferences you should examine why you choose to racially segregate yourself when it comes to love? I’m sure I may hear some valid arguments.
Usually by this time I’ve made them uncomfortable and they go finally pull out the big guns on me and use the “It’s in the Bible argument.” Personally, I love this one.
***BUT YOU’RE GOING TO HAVE TO WAIT UNTIL TOMORROW TO READ THE NEXT PART***
References & Inspirations
The Washington Post – 02/13/05 “When Sexuality Undercuts a Family’s Ties”
Christian Answers – Kevin James Bywater “Is Interracial Marriage Biblical?”