What’s Love Gotta Do With It

I’ve got a question that I believe some will be too afraid to share their private and sincere answer to out of fear of what others may think. But I believe that’s essentially a big part of the problem.

Now I’m not looking for the socially acceptable response to this question, because it’s not about what others think, but what you would do in this situation.


Would you have any problems if your son/daughter dated and/or married someone of any race different than your own?

Previous Excuses:
Now I’ve asked this question before in another forum and these are the excuses that were used to get out of answering the question or addressing the issue. So I wonder how many reading this will not respond or choose to use these cop outs.

  • “…my children are not old enough to date”
  • “…my children are already married or have a boyfriend/girlfriend”
  • “…we don’t believe in that, but I’m not racist.”
  • “…why does it always have to be about race with you people?”
  • “…I don’t mind them dating someone, but marriage is something different.”
  • “…I think the children will have a hard time in life.”
  • “…I don’t have a problem with it, but I don’t know how everyone else would treat them.”
  • “…I don’t prefer it, but it’s their life.”

What’s love gotta do with it when it involves dating or marriage? (I’m being sarcastic)

As someone who has personally been in more than one interracial relationship. I have heard these things not only from White people, but Black too. I had the opportunity to date more than just Black & White women, but it didn’t come without opposition from people who would be among the first to say that they’re not a racist, but… You may not be a racist, but you’re acting like one when you discriminate against someone, prevent, obstruct or make it difficult for someone on the basis of race. No matter how unaware it may be, the results are the same.

So what would you do?

I trust that you will be honest and avoid giving the socially acceptable answer, because you’re more concerned about people’s perception than personal principle. I’m not going to attack you. You’re entitled to your preferences, but don’t allow preferences to be a prejudice.WhaW


5 thoughts on “What’s Love Gotta Do With It

  1. As someone who has had the opportunity to have been exposed to multiple cultures and races all of my life, I probably have a different perspective from some. I’ve been approached by women of different races to date and friendship (before I was married).

    I simple don’t really care as long as it’s true and sincere and not just because of race I’m cool with it. So when my two sons get to the age of dating I’m not going to trip out if the girl is not of the same race. Make sure she’s cute, but have her head on straight and is striving to become something more than just your girlfriend or wife.

    Many people are too afraid to speak freely out of fear of being viewed as a racist or revealing evidence of their lack of socialization or cultural awareness. Yes, I will ask questions or try to point something out that suggest something racist or racially oblivious, but your actions is what proves whether you’re a racist or not. So don’t be afraid to speak honestly, just make sure what you say is how you really feel and not just a socially acceptable statement.

  2. I don’t have kids. How’s that for a major league cop out? 😛

    If I did, my life philosophy would dictate the attitude I would have if my son/daughter were dating interracially etc….

    There are two kinds of people in this world. Those who suck and those who don’t.

    If my standards of decency, respect, honesty and personal virtue were met by the potential spouse, then there is no other aspect to be considered. These are the standards I apply to myself, my friends, my family and would apply to any offspring I might ever have.
    Given the fact that none of us are perfect, race, creed and color would never be considered since they are no indication of character.

    Religion may become an issue depending on the beliefs espoused. That’s not to say I wouldn’t let my child marry a non-Christian. It just depends on the belief system of the suitor and how it affects their actions toward others.
    One can be a good person with or without religious doctrine. The opposite is also true.

    Regards, my friend. 😉

  3. Heh, 🙂

    When I think about me and some energetic kids I get a mental picture from The Godfather of me running in the garden, having a massive coronary and dropping dead on a dime.

    I think I’m better off being a cantankerous old fool that kids run from.

    But you never know, my second childhood could kick in at any time.

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