*QUICK NOTE: I really suggest you read the entire post, before you decided to rail against me. I wouldn’t want you to say something that after you read the whole thing you regret saying what you said. So just read the whole thing. Those who don’t like me for various reasons may eventually get the point I’m trying to make. Those who may not get it, I thank you as well.*
I’ve been called many names the past few years, some you can assume and some creative. The one I’ve find funny is when someone who doesn’t understand something I’ve written about racism or discrimination and calls me a racist or the one I love, a reverse racist.
I actually laugh to myself, because the person doesn’t realize that they reveal themselves to me when they say that. It’s a banner that reads, “I’m uncomfortable with race. So I retreat to the ignorance of it.”
You always allow a person to introduce themselves. This includes when it comes to sensitive issues. If it’s a sensitive issue, be sensitive about it. This means use consideration.
It isn’t always necessary to call a person a racist. If someone is racist they will let you know it in some way.
Some people who are racist don’t realize it. Not everyone who may say or do something racist isn’t a true racist. Yes, uninformed, unaware or even unsocialized, but you have to allow people the opportunity who make these sort of social and cultural mistakes enough times before categorizing them as a racist. Give a person the opportunity to learn what they may not have realized, without the unforgiving condemnation.
You may be asking yourself the question, “How do you do that?”
It’s not difficult when you think about it, because it’s essentially applying the opposite characteristic of racism.
You first need to learn if they understand the social implications of what they said. Some people don’t.
I must inject this one point. No one group of people is inheritably racist. The irony of racism itself is that it isn’t what it does, meaning racism doesn’t discriminate because anyone can be a racist.
The next thing is to respectfully challenge them to consider what they may have said or done as if they were on the receiving end. Explain that it takes the removal of your perceptions and experiences to understand the experiences and perceptions of others. There’s more, but to keep it simple, if you are sincere about eliminating racism you must start with yourself. That means you must demonstrate what racism isn’t if you are going to help someone realize what it is.
Racism is a demonstration of intentional inconsideration. The reverse of that is to intentionally demonstrate consideration. I’m not trying to play with words, but to relay a message. Racism only travels one way. That is towards someone else. You reverse racism by considering others beyond yourself, which means you apply what your biases to yourself first as if it was coming from someone else. (Put yourself in their shoes)
We all make mistakes, but we can be redeemed. You become a reverse racist by changing the direction of your hostility, regressive perceptions, biases and inconsideration. Give a person a chance to prove themselves to you before you call them a racist. And don’t call someone a racist if you do not fully understand what it really is.
You can reverse racism by getting to know someone who is different than you. That’s the only way you discover your similarities.
Share your thoughts about this. I would suggest not to invoke politics or religion into this, but only your experiences. It’s alright if you disagree with me. I’m more interested in what makes you disagree. So be considerate in your response.