Pay Attention or Someone Else Will | By: Tim Valentine
I really do not know how else to say this, but this is just something on my mind that is absolutely not referring or directed towards anyone. It truly is something that’s just on my mind.
So if you’re in a (romantic) relationship, whether dating or marriage there are a few questions you should not have to ask or wonder about.
- Do you love me?
- Do you support me?
- Do you find me attractive?
- Are you paying attention?
- Where is this relationship going?
If you’ve asked yourself or your spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend these sorts of question, then this note may be of interest to you. If not, then congratulations. I invite you to read other notes that may be more of an interest to you 🙂
Now if you answer these questions one way, but unsure if your boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse may respond in a similar way, then something isn’t right. Either you’re withdrawing more than what you’re investing into the relationship or need to figure out the problem.
This is an issue that goes both ways, because women are just as guilty as men in not paying any attention or making other things more of a priority in a relationship than the other person’s needs and concerns. If the person you’re with constantly get upset over something you continue to do, but you do not understand why, then you’re the problem.
Pay attention to the signs before you find yourself signing your name on the dotted line of a legal document that you might not want. Keep in mind that there are other people in the world who recognizes the worth and significances of the one you’ve forgotten, neglected and abandoned in various ways.
Stop applying the methods for how you solve issues at your job in your relationship. You’re not getting paid for this and they’re not either, so stop acting and thinking that you’re the boss and their your employee. It’s about We not Me. (Sorry for that grammar, but you get what I’m saying.)
Life is too short to live it in misery, isolation and repression. Understand that you’re not the only one who knows how to love.
Love is essentially unstoppable. You may be able to slow it down or deny it, but love has a couple of friends named affection, memory, desire, will and passion. Love also has some crazy cousins named frustration, tired and an Aunt named Fed up who communicates with Love often. She has Love’s cell, email, twitter address and subscribed to them on facebook 🙂
Seriously, if you have found yourself asking these question far too many times and tried to work together and they either won’t listen, inconsistent or choose other things above you, then get your house in order, because things might need to change in the near future.
Sometimes men and women in relationships grow to love/value other things more than you. Those other things might be their job/career, the pursuit of money, recreation/sports, their youth or other things. Sometimes both men and women need a reminder, but there does come a time when you find yourself giving them a warning to Pay Attention or Someone Else Will. If not, you might be the one singing a sad love song.