Proverbs 18:21 – “Death and life are in the power of the tongue”. Don’t curse your future … speak life into it!
When we put aside our biases, oppositions and differences with someone or something in order to consider the message, we have cleared our minds enough that makes room for us to realize how true the above statement is.
You can learn a lot from people by the words they use and how they respond to your words when you are silent long enough to listen.
We all can name the people we know who we consider to be nice or friendly. We all can name people who we know will tell you anything, depending on the situation, perceptions and environment. Sometimes these are the same people.
You learn the limits of their friendship or your relationship with them through the way they respond to certain words you say.
Say something they approve or they disapprove of and observe their response. Speak into their spirit and observe their response. Ask them a question of accountability and observe their response.
Words can excite. Words can incite. Words can provide insight. It’s all in how you use them. You can speak words that will kill the spirit of a person’s wildest dreams. Your words can impart the sentiments that destroy someone’s ambitions and leave them spiraling down an unintended path in life. You can use your words to be a motivating factor as well. Consider what you have to say.
Often we do not need to say much to learn how easy it is and/or acceptable it has become for people to demonize those they disagree with or perceive that is against them. Consider its existence in our politics at many levels.
Consider its existence in our spiritual beliefs and unbeliefs. Observe the position it’s given in business and commerce. Realize how it is taught in our various systems and places of education. The ways it is conveyed in our relationships and communities we build are sometimes astonishing.
Our perceptions have guided our ideology; whether it is from how we open ourselves up to, consider and seek out in our relationship to how we fellowship with one another and/or application of those who influence us. We have allowed our perceptions which are susceptible to implicit biases and unconscious discrimination to lead our ideology to a place of confusion, delusion and perpetual disagreement or opposition.
Consider the words you have to say. Words can insightful. Whether it is, “I have a dream” or “There’s nothing to fear, but fear itself”, “Can we all just get along?” or even the audacity to say “Yes We Can.” The power of life and death are trussed onto others by the tongue.
“Look at the palms of your hands and take the pulse of your touch. Look at your smile in the mirror. Listen to your breathing and inhabit your silence. Measure your step and hear the pace and tenderness of the words you speak. These are the places where you wisdom dwells and where others will sense it. This is where earthy humility resides.”
– Dr. Samuel Wills
Imagine what would be gained if you were to speak from the place, comprehension and experiences of those for who you oppose and/or speak against. If you’re going to use your words to destroy, use them to destroy what holds them back. Use your words to kill the spirit of fear and resurrects theirs hopes and inspires them to dream.
Some have campaigned, marketed and supported ideas that are derived from a narrow-minded view of communication that demands English-Only. Why not consider speaking with the universal language of love. This is a language where there are no memorization techniques or flash cards to use, and can be translated into any language.
Choose your words carefully, so that they construct a sentence that builds self-esteem, construct a phrase that opens a window to new considerations and accessorize it paragraphs that acts as the support beams to an encouraging word.
We avoid accountability of our words and their meaning often times to immeasurable lengths. We understand their meaning, but do not want our names or likeness attributed to the meaning because it isn’t socially acceptable to those we try to impress. Impress them by speaking with sincerity. Articulate your message with your character. Provide meaning through your works.
When you become honest with yourself first, you find sincerity with others easier.
“If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.”
Side-Note: Think about what that is saying, before you criticize it or others.
“If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears.
When I was a child, I talked like a child; I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face.
Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”
– 1 Corinthians 13:1-13
Challenge yourself to live, think and speak beyond your biases. Defy your strongholds by seeking the opportunity to share who you are without the fear of opposition.
Love one another, regardless of who they are. They may not understand you at first, but become open enough to consider their place of understanding. Incite who you are by respecting who they are.
What is written might be too much for some. Much of it might be challenging for those who sees the message, but still miss its meaning. Some people are going to question what you say, your intentions, and your motivations. Some do so in search for better or greater understanding. Some will do so in search for areas to disagree, disapprove or destroy. But when you speak sincerely and with the motive and language of love, what can they say that makes a difference?
Speak with insight that is sometimes unexplainable, even to you, but is understood by many. Use your words to incite positive change and punctuate it with love.